Author Rachel Valencourt

We’d just moved to a new area when I had my first baby.

Most of my current friends had children a lot older or none at all. They were off working and continuing with their lives. My husband was extremely supportive, but like my friends, he was working all day. I loved being a new mom, but I found myself longing for adult interaction during the day. I started to feel isolated.

Everything changed three months into motherhood when I joined a group for new mothers. It was one of the best things I could have done. My “mommy friends” have been invaluable to me—we’ve helped each other through that first year. I know I’ve made some lifelong friends. Here’s how they’ve inspired me and why I needed them…

Photo Courtesy of Moms Club of Maricopa

The Elastic Mommy

I call her this because she snaps right back (both physically and mentally) to her former self so quickly after pregnancy. This mom is in her size-two jeans and Manolo heels in no time. She usually has the trendiest diaper bag and is already back at the gym.

Why you need her:

She will remind you that you’re not only a new mom—you’re still a woman. A high-heel-wearing, pedicure-loving woman! This mommy friend always orders a salad, which motivates me to order a salad (instead of that burger I was craving).

Lesson she taught me:

Even though you’re a new mom, that’s no reason to let yourself go. You’re still a woman, and you want to look and feel good! Don’t lose who you were before becoming “Mommy.” If you loved wearing high heels and working out, keep doing that (it’s okay to make time for yourself). If you’re happy with how you look and feel, you’ll be a better mom and wife. Happy mommy = happy baby.

The Last-Minute Mommy

This friend is the one you call for a last-minute playdate, walk, or trip to Starbucks. She’s game for anything. She doesn’t need an hour to pack her diaper bag and get the baby ready for an excursion. This mom makes it all look so easy.

Some new mothers make trips out with a newborn seem like such hard work. This mommy puts her baby in the Bjorn, sling, or Moby wrap and is good to go!

Why you need her:

She’s a true lifesaver when you need some adult conversation.

Lesson she taught me:

Yes, having a newborn is hard work, but it can also be a lot of fun! Get out with your baby; the more you do, the easier it will get.

The Savvy Mommy

Usually, this mommy has a child older than yours—but not always. She might just be so well-researched and organized that she seems like she’s been doing this forever. She usually has all the newest baby gear and always has everything in her well-organized, super-functional diaper bag.

Why you need her:

This is your go-to friend when you have questions or need a little affirmation.

Lesson she taught me:

It’s okay to ask for help and advice from your friends. It might not always work, but sometimes you just need a sounding board before figuring out what’s right for you and your baby.